By Bhavanjot Kaur
“You have three minds: negative, positive and neutral. A person who does not deal with the neutral mind—even with all the wealth—shall not prosper and can’t be happy, because negative and positive cancel each other. It is the neutral mind which becomes the intuitive force in you.”
-Yogi Bhajan, 4/22/97
I had a job at a bagel shop in my teen years and I was saving money to buy my first car. I practiced driving as much as I could in the wee hours of the morning in an empty parking lot across the street from my workplace. I remember the early days of learning how to drive a manual transmission vehicle. It sort of reminds me of the old trick of rubbing your belly and patting your head at the same time.
In learning to drive, there was some element of surrendering and of course adjusting my mindset from “I can’t do this” changing to “I can do this” to the final shift of “by God, I’m doing this” which were thoughts that unquestionably crossed my mind each time I got behind the wheel. I would let off the clutch a little and slowly push down on the gas pedal, trying to find balance and ease in doing so, or undoubtedly my passenger and I were jolted to and fro as the car bounced backward and forward before it would stall out.
There was one time when I ran over a curb, took out a small tree, hit a second curb and then nearly ran through a store glass window while experiencing a myriad of unpleasant thoughts. While I may not have been blessed with the grace of innate driving skills, I was blessed to have a very patient teacher with a positive outlook and a very good sense of humor.
Then one day it all just seemingly fell into place. It was as though some force was flowing through me and as long as I did not think about it too much, I could drive like an expert. It took a lot of stalling out, falling back into old ways of thinking and doing (rather than just ‘being’) before it all seemed to come together in this divinely orchestrated system by the car Gods.
Soon after I seemed to have mastered the stick shift, I purchased my first car, which was a purple Eagle Summit. It was an automatic transmission. Go figure.
“You know how to drive a car, but you do not know how to drive your life!”
– Yogi Bhajan
We have one physical body, which is essentially our primary vehicle of transportation here on Earth. We also have three minds in the driver seat: one mind trying to steer you left (Negative Mind), and one mind trying to steer you right (Positive Mind), and one mind trying to move you forward in the direction you are meant to flow (Neutral Mind).
When I felt like the duality of my mind was taking over the natural flow of driving standard, I found that the best thing to do was to stop the vehicle and put it in neutral. The same goes for my life. When I stop and take a full breath (inhale ‘Sat’ exhale ‘Nam’) and when I practice yoga, meditate or call on Guru Ram Das, I reconnect to my internal state of neutral. The negative and positive minds still do their jobs, but do not lead me to crash and burn or leave me ‘driving in circles’ getting nowhere fast.
I am reminded of the movie, National Lampoon’s European Vacation. The family gets stuck in the roundabout and as they pass the same landmarks over and over, the father repeats again and again, “Hey look kids, there’s Big Ben, and there’s parliament.”
I have admittedly experienced crash and burn (out) in life, and have been found ‘driving in circles’ on more than one occasion, but it’s a learning process, just like when I learned to drive a car for the first time.
When you finally tune into the fact that you are gifted with a physical body, three mental bodies and six energy bodies (that is ten bodies in all and eleven if you count “Infinity,”—not to be confused with the luxury car, “Infiniti”), it is like getting into a new (pre-owned) vehicle for the first time. It takes some getting used to. It takes a lot of practice. Give yourself a ‘break’ when you can and find your ‘neutral.’
In the words of Yogi Bhajan, “Drive your life like a car, and you will be fine. Use a signal to change lanes. Drive carefully and shift the gears as you face the day. Gas up the car and check the oil before you go—that is called Sadhana (daily spiritual discipline). It is a mental cleansing process, a tune-up to the point of elevation every day.”
Bhavanjot Kaur is the owner and founder of Hamsa Healing Arts in Old Saybrook, CT. Bhavanjot is a Kundalini yoga teacher, Reiki Master & Teacher, Craniosacral therapy practitioner and she also offers sound therapy with a 32" gong. Bhavanjot hosts a local women's circle and various workshops on therapeutic grade essential oils, medicinal mushrooms and The Art of Reiki Levels I and II. She is a proud single mother to a beautiful and delightful four-year-old little girl who overcame a rare childhood kidney cancer.
Re-posted from Bhavanjot's blog.